The Five Stages of Grief(15)

Just like how we are in different stages of life according to Kierkegaard, we are also in different stages of grief. The Kübler-Ross model, shows that there are five stages of grief. The first stage is denial, the second is anger, the third is bargaining, the fourth is depression, and finally the fifth stage of grief is acceptance. These five stages are shown well in the movie Groundhog Day starring the funniest man alive Bill Murray.

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Throughout the movie Bill Murray's character Phil is reliving the same day over and over again. He completes one day, and then starts over. Phil is the only one who realizes he is stuck in a time loop. This movie shows all five stages of grief.

Stage 1) Denial: When Phil talks to the man outside is room, he is confused about having the same conversation from the day before. He then lies and says he thought he did this yesterday. He is in denial at this point because he is making up a reality that is not true, in which he thought he had the wrong date, which was not true.

Stage 2) Anger: Phil shows his anger around the close of the movie when he slams the alarm clock to the ground to shut it off. At this point Phil as lived many years in the same day and does not want to hear the radio broadcast from the (first) day.

Stage 3) Bargaining: Phil bargains Rita to just give him a chance. Well several chances, because she said yes, he fell in love with her. It is though that she did not love him, until the (last) day.

Stage 4) Depression: Phil goes through several days where he kills himself. Phil is doing whatever he can to break the time loop. Towards the end of the movie, the audience can see that he is just done with being stuck in Groundhog Day. So he does what any other person may do to end something, by taking his life(s). This attempt does not work and he still wakes up every day at 6:00 am.

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The fifth and final stage is Acceptance: Phil finally accepts his fate and takes advantage of this. Throughout the movie, Phil learns everything there is to learn about the town of Punxsutawney, he learns everybody's name, the story and more. He also takes piano lessons, learns to carve ice, and he finally wins the girl over. By accepting that he would be stuck, he could take advantage of it and learn things that would and could take years to master.

Grief comes in many forms, most of us will experience them in a lifetime not in one day.

A Nice Photo

The perfect day, I went to Jetblue Park today, and saw the Red Sox practicing for the 2014 campaign. It was a fun day. After we went to the park, my family and I went to the beach. We got there around 3:00 pm and did not leave until I got this.

The most perfect sunset to the most perfect day.  Sunset was at 6:30 and that was the end to the perfect day. 

My Dearest Friend (14)

One of my favorite moments in sports is when 17,565 people are cheering at the same moment. On January 14th, 2014, I attended my first Bruins game. Let me tell you I had a blast. My dad got has a friend who has season tickets, arguably the best seats at the TD GARDEN.

I went with my brother and my best bud. There were moments that happened in the game which was good for our team. The Bruins scored three times. Each time they scored, the crowd went crazy. During the game however, there were several times where the people directly behind us spilled some adult like beverages on myself and my friend.  At one point the beverage was spilled down my back. I was not myself, I was acting irate. My friend showed me the metaphorical mirror and told me to calm down. My friend was acting as another self because he knows me. He knows how I act. We have been friends for at least a decade. He saw that I was going crazy over spilled beer but nevertheless, I took several deep breaths and calmed down. He was my true self in a sense that he told me I was acting crazy. He told in more than words that I needed to relax. He acted as another self for me.